Over the bunch of years that I have been collecting books, I have had a couple friends who have asked to borrow them.
My initial thinking? Sure! I hope you love the book as much as I did.
My thinking afterward? Ugh, you suck at this game.
****Unless… You’re pretty amazing. Then you can borrow all the books you want.
Here are my reasons as to why I don’t lend out my books.
Reason #1: The books are not treated the way I would treat them. I have had a friend, whom I lent three books. The next time I see the books, one has many bent pages (at odd angles) and one has a ring of red sticky soda around it. Like the book was used as a coaster and the soda was spilled a little bit. Uhm. No. Just no.
Reason #2: The books are lost or never returned. This one I absolutely hate. If you lend me a book, I’m going to read it and return it to you. Your loaned book goes on the top of my list. However, I have had to replace multiple books because people cannot remember to return them, or they lose them! I’m like ‘How do you lose this book?!’. Or this one: “I lent it to someone else!”
Reason #3: An addition to #2. You lie and tell me you gave the book back. This one has happened to me before. An ex-friend of mine swore that she gave the book back when I know she didn’t. She just wanted to keep it because she loved it as much as I did and didn’t want to go buy it for herself. I was devastated. However, I think I was 10 or 11? So I probably got over it quickly, but the lesson remains the same.
Reason #3.5: Orrrrr. You asked to borrow it, I let you, but then you never plan on reading it. I’ve had a couple of those too. Sucks big time. Cuz they hold onto it for months and you’re like ‘Where’s my book, brah?’
Reason #4: The fact that I don’t know you. I.e. Not a personal close friend or family. Many times, if I don’t you, I won’t lend you a book. Only because I don’t know how you treat books or anything of the like.
Reason #5: There is potential to spill liquids on it, highlight passages, or dog-ear my pages. I mean, there are only a couple of my books that are in absolutely perfect condition. Most of them aren’t, as they are second-hand. However, just because they are second-hand does not mean you shouldn’t take care of them. Spine creases happen, but treat it like you would your own book. And please return it.
Ahhh! Honestly, I do lend books. But… I have to know you really well, and know that you’ll take care of them as much as I do.
How do you guys feel about lending books? What are your pet peeves?
- January 10, 2016
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